--- name: toddler-skill description: Toddler stage intelligence (1-3 years). Tantrum pattern intelligence, language explosion tracker, potty training navigator, picky eating manager, social intelligence, routine & transition management, bedtime ritual tracker. Learns your toddler's chaos patterns. Extends baby.skill. Not medical advice. --- # toddler.skill 🚀 1-3 years. Chaos mode. *Extends [baby.skill](https://github.com/realteamprinz/baby-skill) for the 1-3 year stage.* ## ⚠️ Safety First This skill does NOT provide medical advice. Behavioral concerns, speech delays, developmental questions — talk to your pediatrician. This skill tracks patterns and helps with daily life. It does NOT diagnose. ## What Makes Toddlers Unique They have OPINIONS. They say NO. They run. They throw things. They have meltdowns because you cut the sandwich wrong. But they also say "I love you" for the first time, make up songs, and invent imaginary friends. toddler.skill tracks both the chaos and the magic. ## Toddler-Specific Features ### 1. Tantrum Pattern Intelligence Log triggers, duration, what helped, what made it worse. Build a tantrum map: ``` 🌋 Emma's Tantrum Map (Month 22) Top triggers: 1. Being told "no" about something she wants — 30% of tantrums 2. Tired + hungry combo (usually ~5pm) — 25% of tantrums 3. Transition away from fun activity — 20% of tantrums 4. Can't do something herself — 15% of tantrums 5. Sibling/sharing conflict — 10% of tantrums What works: Offering 2 choices — 70% success ("red cup or blue cup?") Distraction with bubbles — 60% success Naming the emotion — 55% success ("you're frustrated!") Hugging and waiting — 50% success What makes it WORSE: Saying "stop crying" — escalates 90% of the time Picking her up forcefully — escalates 80% of the time Reasoning/explaining — useless during peak tantrum Average duration: 4-5 minutes Longest this month: 12 minutes (sandbox at park, didn't want to leave) Frequency: ~2-3 per day (down from 4-5 last month) ``` ### 2. Language Explosion Tracker Toddlers go from 10 words to 200+ between 12-24 months: ``` 🗣️ Emma's Language Explosion (Month 20) Word count: ~85 words (tracking actively) New words this week: "butterfly," "more please," "no way" Longest sentence: "Daddy go work bye-bye" (4 words!) Favorite word: "MINE" (used 47 times yesterday) Funny mispronunciations: "pasketti" (spaghetti) "lellow" (yellow) "hangaber" (hamburger) "brella" (umbrella) Bilingual tracking (English/Spanish): English words: ~60 Spanish words: ~25 Code-switching: "Quiero more juice" (mixing in same sentence — normal!) Prefers English with parents, Spanish with abuela ``` ### 3. Potty Training Intelligence Track readiness signs, successes, accidents, patterns: ``` 🚽 Potty Training Progress (Month 28) Readiness signs observed: ✅ Stays dry during naps (4/5 days) ✅ Tells us when diaper is wet ✅ Shows interest in the toilet ✅ Can pull pants up/down ⬜ Asks to use the potty (not yet) This week: Successes: 8 (mostly morning and after nap) Accidents: 5 (all afternoon, during play) Pattern: She's dry reliably in the morning. Afternoons when distracted by play — she forgets. Don't push it, just offer reminders every 45 min during play. Reward system: Sticker chart — working well (she loves the rainbow stickers). M&M reward lost effectiveness after week 1. ``` ### 4. Picky Eating Navigator Track the ever-changing food preferences: ``` 🍽️ Emma's Food Status (Month 24) Will eat THIS week: Mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, blueberries, yogurt, bread with butter, rice, apple slices Food jag alert: Mac and cheese for 8 days straight Previously accepted, currently rejected: Broccoli (last eaten 2 weeks ago) Eggs (rejected for 1 month now) Banana (was a favorite until month 22) Exposure tracking (needs 15-20 exposures): Sweet potato: Offered 12x, eaten 3x — keep going Bell pepper: Offered 7x, eaten 0x — licked it once Salmon: Offered 5x, eaten 1x — accepted when flaked small What helps: - Dipping sauces (ranch, ketchup) increase acceptance 40% - Eating together as a family increases acceptance 30% - Letting her "help" cook increases acceptance 50% - Pressure/forcing DECREASES acceptance (don't do it) ``` ### 5. Social Intelligence Track playdates, sharing, friendships: ``` 👫 Social Profile (Month 26) Best friends: Maya (daycare), Liam (neighbor) Play style: Parallel → starting interactive play Sharing: Will share with Maya, NOT with strangers Groups: Sweet spot is 2-3 kids. Overwhelmed at big parties. Playground: Loves slides, avoids swings, will climb anything Stranger reaction: Shy for first 5 min, then warms up Conflict style: Grabs toys → working on "use your words" ``` ### 6. Routine & Transition Management Track daily routines and what happens when they break: ``` 📋 Emma's Daily Routine (Month 24) 7:00am — Wake up, milk, morning cartoons (15 min max) 7:30am — Breakfast 8:30am — Free play / outdoor time 10:00am — Snack 10:30am — Activity (park, playdate, errands) 12:00pm — Lunch 12:30pm — Nap routine (book, song, lights off) 1:00-3:00pm — Nap 3:00pm — Snack, free play 5:00pm — Dinner prep (she "helps") 5:30pm — Dinner 6:15pm — Bath 6:45pm — Bedtime routine (2 books, 1 song, tuck in) 7:15pm — Lights out ⚠️ Transition warnings that work for Emma: ✅ 5-minute warning before leaving playground ✅ "After one more slide, we go to the car" ❌ 2-minute warning (NOT enough time — she needs more) ❌ "We're leaving NOW" (instant meltdown) ✅ Offering a transition bridge: "Let's go to the car and listen to Baby Shark!" ``` ### 7. Bedtime Ritual Tracker The EXACT sequence that works — because toddlers WILL notice if you skip a step: ``` 🌙 Bedtime Ritual (Month 24) THE SEQUENCE (do not deviate): 1. Bath (with the 3 rubber ducks — NOT the boat, she'll scream) 2. Pajamas (she picks which ones) 3. Brush teeth (singing the tooth song) 4. TWO books (she picks — currently Goodnight Moon and the dog one) 5. ONE song (Twinkle Twinkle, always) 6. Lights off, nightlight on (the star one, NOT the moon one) 7. Back rub for ~2 minutes 8. "Goodnight, I love you, see you in the morning" 9. Leave door cracked exactly THIS much ⚠️ Known deviations: - If we skip bath: 15 min longer to fall asleep - If we read 3 books: she asks for 4, then 5, then it's 9pm - If Dad does bedtime: she wants Mom's song, but Dad's version works if he does the hand motions - If overtired: skip books, go straight to song — she's too wired to sit ``` ## Toddler Profile Fields The following fields extend the base baby.skill profile: - Vocabulary count + new words log - Sentence complexity (1-word, 2-word, short sentences, complex) - Funny mispronunciations - Tantrum triggers + ranked solutions - Tantrum frequency and duration trends - Potty training stage + progress metrics - Food acceptance list (current week) - Food rejection list (current) - Food exposure counts - Current daily routine (with times) - Bedtime ritual sequence (exact order) - Nap transition status (2→1 nap, dropping nap) - Favorite characters/shows - Imaginary friends - Fear list (dark, monsters, vacuum, thunder) - Social preferences (group size, best friends) - Independence level (what they insist on doing themselves) - Comfort objects ## Toddler Emotional Intelligence ### Tantrum Response Protocol 1. **Ensure safety** — move away from stairs, sharp objects 2. **Stay calm** — your calm is their anchor 3. **Name the emotion** — "You're really frustrated that we have to leave" 4. **Wait it out** — don't try to reason during peak intensity 5. **Offer comfort** — when they're ready, not before 6. **Move on** — don't rehash it, don't lecture ### Independence Support Toddlers NEED to do things themselves. This takes 4x longer. Budget for it. - Let them try before helping - Offer help, don't force it - Celebrate effort, not just success - "You almost did it! Want to try one more time?" ### The Word "No" "No" is a developmental milestone. It means they're becoming a person. It's annoying. It's also beautiful. - Don't take it personally - Offer choices instead of yes/no questions - "Do you want the red shirt or the blue shirt?" not "Do you want to get dressed?" ## Inherits From All features of [baby.skill](https://github.com/realteamprinz/baby-skill) plus the toddler-specific features above. Data from [newborn.skill](https://github.com/realteamprinz/newborn-skill) and [infant.skill](https://github.com/realteamprinz/infant-skill) carries forward — providing a complete history.